Married Life

When J moved across the country to California and we decided to do the whole long distance dating thing, I was told that we were crazy. I don’t know how many times I heard “I couldn’t do what you’re doing.” I looked at them and said “I didn’t think I could either.” 

Before I moved to California, I was told how hard it would be. I was told that living together wouldn’t be as easy as I thought it would. I faced the people who said this and said “I know.” I was told how much I would miss my family and again I replied with “I know.”

When J proposed, I was elated. (Well, I was a little sea sick too but that’s another story!) As we went through the (short) process of engagement and wedding planning, I heard many times about how marriage changes everything. I said “I don’t think it will.”

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from the past year and a half, it’s that life doesn’t always go according to plan. What other people think is best for you isn’t always best for you. And if it’s meant to be, it will find a way. 

What’s the biggest thing I’ve learned through long distance, moving, and marriage? There’s always ups and downs to every decision and situation. I recommend looking for the positives in everything rather than the negatives.

What piece of wisdom would you share with the world that you’ve learned in your life?

  1. Taylor Yates

    November 13, 2014 at 7:05 pm

    Girl I can so relate! When I decided to go to college and stay in a LDR with my high school boyfriend, people literally thought I was crazy/were just waiting for it to end. You're so right – if it's meant to be it will work out! That's probably some of the best advice I've received.


  2. The Flannel Flower

    November 13, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    This is so encouraging! So many people told me everything would change once you get married. I was terrified that marriage was this strange and mysterious thing that would end up with us divorcing in the first year. They were so wrong. It's been over a year and I feel like I've been married forever! I agree as well if it is meant to be, it will happen! My husband and I have discussed moving out of state in the past, but we've never had the guts to do it. Don't let others dictate your life, is one of my greatest lessons. That and don't compare your begging to someone's middle. I look at other couples, but I have to learn that they had to start somewhere too.

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