When J moved across the country to California and we decided to do the whole long distance dating thing, I was told that we were crazy. I don’t know how many times I heard “I couldn’t do what you’re doing.” I looked at them and said “I didn’t think I could either.”
Before I moved to California, I was told how hard it would be. I was told that living together wouldn’t be as easy as I thought it would. I faced the people who said this and said “I know.” I was told how much I would miss my family and again I replied with “I know.”
When J proposed, I was elated. (Well, I was a little sea sick too but that’s another story!) As we went through the (short) process of engagement and wedding planning, I heard many times about how marriage changes everything. I said “I don’t think it will.”
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from the past year and a half, it’s that life doesn’t always go according to plan. What other people think is best for you isn’t always best for you. And if it’s meant to be, it will find a way.
What’s the biggest thing I’ve learned through long distance, moving, and marriage? There’s always ups and downs to every decision and situation. I recommend looking for the positives in everything rather than the negatives.
What piece of wisdom would you share with the world that you’ve learned in your life?